I’m glad this dynamic is being discussed. Society wants to focus in Black men/White women interracial relationship controversy while making invisible the painful controversy of Black women/White men relationships. They don’t want to talk about because they don’t want to make white men the villains. They want to continue the idea of colorblindness of IR without talking about the historical implications.
Here’s an excerpt from Belinda Tucker on why most Black women rule out white men as partners:
“There’s a reason that black women are wary of white men: white men’s attitudes toward them, said symposium participant Belinda Tucker, a professor at UCLA. “Media portrayals of black women as either hypersexualized or Big Mommas continue to encourage exploitative attitudes,” she said. By dating black men, women are ‘safe from societal rejections.'”
Whenever Black women talk about the role of race/gender/class as well as history in interracial relationships, people get defensive and downright angry.
Sad, but true.
Contemporary society featuresan influx of relations between black women and white men. From politician’s wives, notably Chirlane McCray (wife of New York City Mayor Bill De Blasio) to romances featured on prime time sitcoms, like Kerry Washington on Scandal and now Halle Berry on Extant, feature educated and powerful black women in the arms of white men.
There are many potential reasons why this white man/black woman dynamic has experienced an abundance of exposure in contemporary society. My mind journeys back to an article I read about the 2004 movie Hitch,starring Will Smith and Eva Mendes. The article disclosed why casting directors declined to cast a black female lead. The reasoning was, that a black female lead would alienate those outside the black diaspora. Interestingly, black romance is perceived as anti-white but in majority relations those of color are encouraged to see beyond the absence of color. Thus, its very…
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